Y’all, can I just brag for a minute? I’ve been thinking today about 2 people in my life that mean a whooolllleeeee lot to me. Allow me to introduce you to Brandy Lynn Wolfe and Cassie Nicole Ervin. I have several very special gal pals in my life but these 2 are my persons. I love these girls dearly. Our relationships go beyond friendship. I’m not sure what to call it. These are the girls I call about EVERYTHING!!! As a matter of fact, since my back has been totally jacked up, I have been at both of their homes for “treatment”. It’s not unusual for me to fall asleep at either of their homes. It’s not unusual for me to grab a drink out of their fridge (or a pickle…or cake…). I wish I could think of all of their best attributes but they are so amazing that I would have to write a book on each one to do them justice. I just wanted to publicly recognize them for their top-notch fabulousness. They’re some real humdingers!!!
I never really thought I would do 2 blog posts in one day but I had to get this out of my head!!! I just got done praying and I was thanking God for all the ways he has blessed me and I was incredibly humbled. It hit me that our blessings are intentional!!! It’s not like God is just on the throne throwing out handfuls of blessing and we just stand around hoping to catch 1 or 2. He, our Heavenly Father, chooses how to bless us and in order for Him to do that, He must know us personally!!! I am close, personal friends with the Creator of this world!!! That is huge!!! I know these are things I knew but I guess it just really sank in. God knows ME!!! I’m not just another face in the multitude, He knows me personally. I get individualized blessings from Almighty God and I am in awe. Wow. I love it when this happens because let me just tell you something, there ain’t a person on the face of the earth that can’t have a relationship with God and receive these blessings. His precious Son saw to that on the Cross. If you are reading this and don’t know Christ Jesus as your Lord and Savior but you would like to know more, PLEASE email me and I will call you. email@example.com
Disclaimer: I am not a poet nor do I claim to be. Don’t judge me. I simply want to share my fondness of coconut oil.
Oh coconut oil, how wonderful you are!!
Whether out of a tub or out of a jar
You make my curls perfect
You freshen my breath
Life without you is a fate worse than death
Oh coconut oil, you’re such a dream
You clean my face
And become shaving cream
Ok, I give up. I warned y’all that I’m no poet. The point is, coconut oil is basically everything. Here are some of the things I use it for:
- Styling aid – Instead of mousse or gel, I use about 1/2 a teaspoon on my hair while wet, wrap in a towel and then air dry. I suggest using refined for your hair and face because it doesn’t have a smell.
- Face wash and make-up remover – There is a strange science to oil washing. Oil breaks down oil and coconut oil also moisturizes so it slows oil production in the skin,. Weird huh? This is how to oil wash your face – rub a teaspoon of coconut oil on your face and then lay a hot, wet wasg cloth on your face for about 30 seconds and then use the rag to wipe the coconut oil off.
- Oil pulling – This one is simple. Make sure you use unrefined, organic, extra virgin coconut oil for this one. I use Carrington Farms to oil pull. The reason for this is because the unrefined, extra virgin coconut oil has anti-fungal and anti-bacterial properties. Oil pulling is actually an ancient practice that kills the bacteria in the mouth, whitens teeth and freshens breath!!! You simply put a tablespoon of coconut oil in your mouth and swish for 20 minutes!!! I do it while I’m taking my shower. Don’t do it any longer than 20 minutes because if you do, the bacteria will be reabsorbed in your mouth. Make sure you DON’T SWALLOW and spit it in the trash can or outside so your drain pipes don’t clog.
I am the world’s worst talker. I can talk an idea to death and never get around to doing anything about it. Well, not anymore!!! A few Sundays ago, my pastor said something during a sermon that has really stuck with me – there is power in a made up mind. I was thinking about how many times I’ve wanted to do something and talked about it but never put actions to my words. I’m tired of life passing me by. I have 5 goals –
- Draw closer to God. This doesn’t just happen. It takes focus and effort on our part for this to happen. Studying the Word, spending time in prayer, being obedient. God said if we draw close to him, he will draw close to us.
- Strengthen my marriage. 1 and 2 go hand in hand. There’s been a lot of surrender to God in this area. I can’t really go in too deep here yet but I am trusting God for a seriously big work.
- Be a runner/improve my strength/lose weight. This takes some serious work, even when I don’t feel like it. There’s evenings when I just want to go home and go to bed. There’s days that I want a cheeseburger, pizza, candy bar and/or whole pack of cookies the size of my head but I will never crush these goals if I am constantly giving into temptation. I will not be honoring God with my body if I am always giving in (a whole separate post is coming on this topic soon).
- Motivate others and be a leader. I am a firm believer that more is caught than taught and that a person has to lead by example. I know that in order to accomplish this goal, I have to walk the walk and not just talk the talk. I have to study successful people, learn how to be an effective leader and then IMPLEMENT the principles I have learned.
- Get out of debt. Ok, this one is really tough and takes a lot of discipline. I feel like I am way behind the curve here. It’s just been recently that this has become a goal but I am sick of being in debt. I am sick of paying interest. I am sick of being strapped. I am sick of not being able to be as generous with others as I would like to be. I am sick of not being able to give like I would like to. So what do I do? Start a home based business (shameless Advocare plug) as a side job and start paying off loans. I have paid off 2 loans already this year and my next goal is my car.
Love is patient, love is kind
I was just sitting here eating lunch when I had a thought come to me. That’s one of the reasons I’m digging blogging; I have a forum to develop my thoughts when they strike.
Anyway, I was thinking about kindness and how alot of people act according to the way they are treated. I know there are some people who are going to be craptastic no matter how nice you are but open displays of kindness, friendliness and brotherly (or sisterly) love can change a person!!!
I was thinking about what would happen if people started being kind and considerate…ON PURPOSE!!! What started this thought process was someone treating me like they like me. I felt well liked, I felt valued as a person and that made me feel good.
With me, thought processes are like snow balls, the bigger they get, the quicker they roll down hill. In about 30 seconds to a minute, I went from feeling valued to deciding to pick one person to make them feel valued to writing this blog to issuing a challenge. I challenge anyone who is reading this to pick a person and do whatever it takes to make that person feel valued.
Everyone needs to feel loved and valued!!! Here’s some ideas that hit me while I was writing this:
- CALL (not text or email or facebook) that person just to say hey
- Ask them what they think about something, make eye contact and LISTEN when they talk
- Put down your phone when you have a conversation with someone ( I am soooo bad about that)
- Smile with your whole face (you know what I mean)
- Give a real hug
- Offer genuine encouragement
Afternoon folks!!! I only have 20 minutes left on my lunch break so this is going to be a short one but I had an epiphany at work today – I am blessed beyond measure at work!!!
Sure, I could look at all the stuff that annoys me but today I have seen the blessings instead.
For example, if I need to get up and stretch my legs, I can walk out to the back dock or out the back door for a couple of minutes, take a few deep breathes and see the prettiest mountains!!!
My drive to work is gorgeous, my co-workers are the best, I wear yoga pants and can listen to either christian or christmas music all day while I work, I have a great relationship with my boss, I can go to the file room and pray if I need to, I can listen to sermons at my desk if I so choose and I actually LIKE my job.
For the most part, I actually enjoy the work I do. Those are things that money just can’t buy. I have days that I want to scream. Actually, I have days where I do scream. I throw fits. I have days I want to dropkick my computer into the parking lot (ever seen the movie office space?). The point is that, even though I have bad days at work, the good SERIOUSLY outweighs the bad. Today I am thankful for my job and my work family.
Oh and if you are reading this…You’re beautiful 😉
Delight yourself in the Lord and he will give you the desires of your heart ~ Psalm 37:4.
This is one of my favorite scriptures and I read an article on it one time that really changed
When I first read this scripture, I read it and thought it meant that if we find our delight in the Lord, He will give us what we want but the teaching that I read explained it from a different and possibly unpopular perspective which is that if we delight ourselves in the Lord, he will literally give us the desires of our heart…as in place the desires there.
I have started to pray specifically for this but I’ve realized in the past few days that its pointless to pray this if I don’t believe it will happen!!!
We have been studying the book of James in Sunday school and James 1:5-7 says
If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him. But let him ask in faith, nothing wavering. For he that wavereth is like a wave of the sea driven with the wind and tossed. For let not that man think that he shall receive any thing of the Lord
Faith has always been an issue for me and I am not sure why. I think part of it was my influence growing up. I grew up around alot of hand-wringers and chronic worriers. I also think part of it is that I know I am not worthy of all of the blessings in store for me but I’m still trying to grasp the full concept of grace.
Any way, it is by God’s grace that he has given me the desires of my heart and they are as follows:
Now I know that no one is happy all of the time but I want you to imagine for a moment that you don’t have a relationship with the Lord. Imagine for a moment that you’ve never accepted Christ as your Lord and Savior. Now think about how you act. Would your actions make YOU want to follow Christ? Do you live your life in a way that would make YOU wonder what you have that others don’t?
These are things that I’ve thought of lately and questions I have asked myself. Is my LIFE a witness for Christ? Are my ACTIONS a testimony of not only His greatness, but also of His GOODNESS?
Christ said that he came not only to give us life but to give it more abundantly and since He’s offering, I’ll take it!!!
There’s people in my life that I see so much potential in. I see their beauty and intelligence and ability but I also watch them not see it in themselves and I want them too sooo bad because I love them!!! If you read this and think I am talking about you, I probably am lol.
Pridefulness can wear many masks, even one called (GASP) low self-esteem!! When you are truly confident in yourself, you really can focus on other people and when you are really trusting God ( I am REALLY speaking to myself here) you can openly serve him without hesitation and praise him without reservation!!!
I didn’t do it to take care of my temple, I did it out of vanity.
I wanted to be “HOT”.
My “why” was never solid enough.
Now I want to be healthy because our bodies are the temple of God and we are bought with a price and we are EXPENSIVE!!!! Jesus redeemed us with His blood, with His LIFE, so I’ve made it my goal to get this temple in optimum shape and honor God with my body.
I also want to stress that this is a PERSONAL conviction and that I’m not pointing fingers.
What I want more than anything is a closer walk with the Lord.
I want to go through my life hand-in-hand with my Heavenly Father.
I want to do everything in my life to His glory and with continual praise on my lips AND in my heart.
I want a deep prayer life because I FINALLY realize that prayer is a privilege. It is a privilege for us to be able to enter the throne room of grace and have intimate, one-on-one time with Almighty God!!! I want to surrender my life to him so fully and completely that my heart and mind is putty in His hand.
I accepted Christ as my Lord and Savior on November 10th, 1988 but it wasn’t until a couple of years ago that I FINALLY began to mature in the Lord.
I think I MAY be past the point of being a spiritual toddler now. I am definitely still a child though.
I understand that the maturation process takes time but I want to be mature NOW. I imagine this is why I always seem to be put in situations where I have to exercise patience.
I want to get to the point that I bear the fruits of the Spirit without even thinking of it!!! I want to be so on fire spiritually that I glow. I want this flame that’s in me to grow into a blazing bonfire!!!
I hear people say often, “well that’s just human nature” or “well you are human after all” and while that is true, those phrases often equate to “walking in the flesh” and I don’t want to walk in the flesh, I want to walk in the Spirit!!!!
I get so aggravated with myself when I let my flesh rise up, which is often and anyone that knows me knows I can throw one grand hissy fit.
Sometimes its like word vomit.
I know I don’t need to say it but I can’t seem to stop myself and then I am extremely thankful for grace.
Hey Y’all!!! Welcome back!!!
If you are reading this, I’m excited that you have decided to continue with me on this journey.
It is my sincere hope that I never come across as haughty or upitty in anyway. The ONLY thing I want is to encourage people, give people hope and be humble enough that Jesus can live through me.
I have to confess that my biggest struggle is pridefulness so I need you all to keep me accountable OK? If you all let me know that I’m being a snot, I will take it seriously and tone it down.
Ok, where did I leave off last time?
Oh yes, my nervous breakdown.
I had carried some serious stress around for years.
Burdens that I had no business carrying (and I will do a specific post in the future Lord willing on exactly that) piled up like bricks on my back because I wouldn’t turn them over to God and I broke!!!
My mind would race to the point that I couldn’t focus on a single thought, my heart would race and beat in such a way that I couldn’t breathe, I had physical pain that had no diagnosis, my hair began to fall out and then it happened…I snapped.
My mind shut down.
Oh my brain worked in the sense that it made my body function but it was otherwise shut down. I remember the morning it happened. I was getting ready for work in my bathroom and I sat down on my toilet for a reason I still can’t remember and then it was 3 hours later.
I completely lost 3 hours of my life.
It scared the crap out of me so I called my doctor and was hospitalized for 5 days due to major clinical depression…aka a nervous breakdown.
And that’s when it happened…that’s when God began to put me back together.
He used me while I was in there to speak life to a couple of other people (strange I know) and that really helped my own healing to begin!!!
When I got home, I still wasn’t right. I realized that I had been playing church up until that point because that was all I knew how to do but then I got serious about my walk with God.
I’m no where near where I want to be spiritually but I can look back to that point in my life and see how far the Lord has brought me, where he has brought me from, and how much he has drawn me closer to him.
My faith has grown so much that I know I will only grow more desperate for him until I go home.
I think about how true Romans 8:28 is.
I’m a walking, laughing, smiling testimony of it!!!
There was a time in my life that I couldn’t fathom happiness. I would look at happy people and think they had to be faking it. No one could really be that happy. I only knew shades of blah…but then the light broke through. The clouds started to break up and the sun started shining through and it was glorious.
Today, I am excited about life!! I feel like I have purpose!! If you are reading this and think there is no hope, that you will never feel light and joyful, I promise you that Jesus can do in you what he has done (and is still doing) in me!!!
I’m not special. God is no respecter of persons. He loves us all on a level we can’t even fathom and what better is that he WANTS to help us but sometimes we have to break before we become willing to let him. Our pride tells us that we are strong and we can handle it. Ha!!! Wrong! But we have a Lord that can.
Well folks, I hope this encourages someone but my lunch break is now over and I must resume working. I want each of you to know that you are beautiful and loved. Yes I mean you too…
If you are reading this, you have just unwittingly joined me on a journey that began in April of 2014 and I have chosen to share my journey with you!!! This is a journey of mental, spiritual and physical fitness.
First things first, I would like to introduce my self. My name is Heather Honto, I am swiftly approaching 36 and I am a daughter of the King. By day I am an EDI Coordinator and by night, I am an aspiring health and fitness coach and Advocare distributor. I am married with a pitbull named Isabelle. The husband shall remain nameless until he gets over his hatred of social media.
Anyway, my journey began right after Easter 2014 when I finally had the nervous breakdown that had been pending for years.
I know that sounds like a horrible way to start a journey but God knows what he’s doing and it actually ended up being the best thing that ever happened to me!!!
You see, when it happened, I was broken. Completely and utterly broken but there is a beauty to being broken.
When you are broken and your life is in pieces, you are in the perfect position for God to put you back together the way He wants you to be!!! He has done such an amazing work in me in the last 19 months.
When I began this journey, I was a prideful, whiny, lazy, ambitionless snot who felt like the world owed her something. I didn’t understand that at the time but God did and boy have things changed since that fateful Tuesday in April!!! Well, this is turning into a rather lengthy post and I just realized that there’s no way that I can get everything into one post so friends…To Be Continued…